It takes a free man or woman to usher another into freedom. Psalm 118:5  Taking others seriously by serving them before taking their spoken words literally is how we strengthen and sing them into this freedom. Psalm 142:7

Over time serving them allows the freedom to move away from their refuge of words into the refuge of friendship through fellowship. 2 Corinthians 7:13-16

We hold them through listening rather than holding them to an accountability of only what is said.  This intimacy brings meaning as a person rather than a problem. Amos 8:4

They begin to taste and see who they really are rather than a meaningless shadow using words to hide behind.

Learn to freely listen through compassion and comfort first received, then given. 2 Corinthians 1:3-7