The success in relationship building tends to be thought of as "scouting out" someone, watching how he or she reacts or has reacted to others, or by their habits and disciplines. While this helps, it is rarely how a lasting meaningful relationship is built, especially one that we can influence and not be distracted by opinion. What is important to recognize are the patterns one has of interaction with and reaction towards us specifically. While these patterns may appear similar to past and current relationships that the other has, our actions, not reactions, are what begin to develop the relationship in a much deeper and more influential way.