Our repetitive words become a magic marker highlighting something very important. We highlight things we read that should be remembered. What we say that should be remembered(aware of) is often repeated within a conversation. For example: when you catch yourself repeating the word "maybe", you are highlighting something often subconsciously convicting. Or, when you repeat the 3 words "in my mind", what is being highlighted is that you are stuck on something you say or have accepted but don't really believe because it is untrue or only partially true. An example of this might be "I am depressed" when I am really just tired. Or, "I am miserable" when I am just angry. Or, "it's not important" when I value it with my life.
There are many different verbal highlights that we learn to take note of as they are spoken. But without someone to give voice to what you said through listening, questioning, or rephrasing, it's difficult to read or recognize your own verbal notes. Learning how to string them together into your natural rhythms make you a highlight or headlight for others.